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Relationships - How to Pick the Right Person Using 3 Simple Kingdom Principles!
01/07/2010 - By George A. Hayes
There are many things you should consider before getting into a relationship, but here are three that you must take into account. Core values, Direction of the relationship, and Being selective. Many online dating sites use these principles to match clien
There are many things you should consider before getting into a relationship, but here are three that you must take into account. Core values, Direction of the relationship, and Being selective. Many online dating sites use these principles to match clients.
1. CORE VALUES
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed. We are a success or failure based on how well we do with our relationships with God and others. Moreover we must know who we are, and our purpose in life in order to be in healthy relationships. The core of every person longs for meaning; that is, divine will of the creator, purpose. We ask questions like:
• Why am I here?
• What is my assignment?
• How can it come to pass
• How can I do Gods will?
Research shows that 43% of American people, everyday ask God why am I here? What is my purpose? Eccl 3:1 To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. Eccl 10 I have seen the travail, which God hath given to the sons of men to be exercised in it. We all have a purpose in being here and we must find Gods purpose and do it before rapture.
Ask yourself are the people in your life in agreement with the things you value? What values do they live by? Is it sports, cars, politics, career, money, sex? These are not core values.
Core values are honesty, integrity, character, loyalty faith in God, and positive in spirit. You must understand what it is that you like a person and keep it in perspective. Is it physical attractions, humor, personality, compassion, are they good listeners?
2. WHERE IS THE RELATIONSHIP IS TAKING YOU?
Remember every relationship is taking you somewhere and will determine the outcome in your life. Those closets people to you determine the outcome of your life and the journey of your life is built on relationships. There is no dress rehearsal in life, its just one time through and that is it. It is not cute to hang with losers. Some people marry people and then feel sorry for them. Remember life is made by choices and you are in control of this. You are where you are today because of the choices you made in life.
Just like you want something from a relationship so does the other person. What do they want from you? Is it sex, money, opportunity, friendship, companionship? If they are not in agreement with your core values, and are no longer getting what they want from you, they will be gone soon. They tell you what you want to hear so they can get what they want from you like:
• I would never do anything like that, it is not my character
• I am not that kind of person I am very loyal
• I should go to church more, but I have faith in God
• I am not a liar, I am an honest person
• I would never do that its against what I stand for, I have integrity
• I am different, I would never disrespect you
3. BE SELECTIVE
Ask yourself if this relationship is taking you toward your purpose and destiny? You must be selective. This does not mean that you are better, it just means you may have different destinations and you can not get where your suppose to go with this person if your on different pathways.
Keep in mind that there is a difference between falling into a relationship and stepping into a relationship. A relationship that you fall into may need to be terminated. A relationship that you step into needs to be pursued with intensity,
Never step into a relationship with:
• Angry people
• Bitter people
• Lazy people
• Jealous people
• Gossiping people
• Those that do not love God
These people are wolves in sheep clothing. Often we have embraced these people and they have hurt us because we did not keep the acquaintance or relationship in perspective. They end up hurting us over and over again. In some case they are still in our lives hurting us right now. LET THEM GO. They have no core values and only God can help them. They are only concerned with how being with you benefits them. They are not capable of loving you, caring for you, and strengthening you. So you become continually hurt, wounded, and upset. Do not choose the wrong people. Kick them to the curb NOW.
Remember everyone that comes into your life should not qualify as your friend. Use these 3 Kingdom principles when choosing someone and you will choose the right person. You will have the Victory and can give Glory to God.
By George A. Hayes
